Monday, September 24th, 2012 at
What If I am Arrested?
This is a brief overview of the getting bail, a bail bondsman and getting arrested. First, when you get a bail, usually from a bail bondsman, you are using your property or other collateral to pledge to a court to release you from jail, with the understanding that the person being charged with this crime will appear in court. If they don’t appear, then they will forfeit their bail as well as possibly be brought up on additional charges for their failure to appear in court. This is commonly referred to as posting bail when a person is arrested and released from custody and waiting for their trial date in a court of law.
In some situations, your bail money can be returned to you at the end of the trial, if you have made all of you court appearances, even if you have been found guilty or not guilty of the crime accused. If a bail bondsman is used he obtains a surety bond and he pays for this insurance policy and this fee is not refundable.
What Should I Expect After I am Arrested?
The first thing that happens after a police officer arrests you for a crime is that you are taken to a police station or jail and booked for the given crime. Part of this booking process involves taking your finger prints, a photograph or better known as a mug shot, as well as recording personal information. After this process you will be placed in what’s called a holding cell. By the way, if are arrested on a Friday or over the weekend, you will usually remain in this holding cell until Monday when a judge is available to view your case.
Sunday, September 23rd, 2012 at
Angry Teens and What You Can Do About It
It’s so frustrating as parents dealing with your son or daughter when they are angry with you. Especially, when this was your sweet child when they were younger! We are assuming that this is “normal” teen anger, and not teen anger as a result of drugs or being released recently from a drug rehab center.
Also, a certain amount of anger or frustration is normal for many of us, but there constructive and destructive ways to express it. Many of us need to find constructive ways to express our frustrations and anger in life when we have been treated unfairly and we need to stand up for ourselves at school or work. This situation can be handled either in a positive or negative way, depending on how we express ourselves.
A teen can express their anger by: sulking, yelling, being sarcastic or being depressed. When they are sulking mor depressed it’s very hard to talk to them. This is very frustrating to parents because we have no idea what’s bothering them and we don’t want a painful situation to turn into another teen suicide. Speaking of teen suicides, it is now the third leading cause of death for kids from 15-24. The death from suicide with teens in this age group has shown a significant increase since 2004. To put this alarming statistic in perspective there is a teen suicide every hour and forty-five minutes.
An excellent non profit organization in Los Angeles the Josephson Institute of Ethics discovered that 52% of the teens that have hit someone in anger think that it’s all right to hit or threaten a person who angers them.
What You Can Do With Your Teen When They’re Angry
1. Try to stay firm and unemotional “a cool head” at all times, that way you will be role modeling positive ways to deal with a heated situation.
2. Be clear and specific when laying down the rules, otherwise they will say that you never mentioned a seemingly small detail.
3. Don’t let your teen cut corners. If you want them to clean their room not only be specific, as in Rule #2, but hold them accountable, if for example they did not empty their trash. Better yet, write the three things that you want them to do in cleaning their room.