Angry Teens and What You Can Do About It
It’s so frustrating as parents dealing with your son or daughter when they are angry with you. Especially, when this was your sweet child when they were younger! We are assuming that this is “normal” teen anger, and not teen anger as a result of drugs or being released recently from a drug rehab center.
Also, a certain amount of anger or frustration is normal for many of us, but there constructive and destructive ways to express it. Many of us need to find constructive ways to express our frustrations and anger in life when we have been treated unfairly and we need to stand up for ourselves at school or work. This situation can be handled either in a positive or negative way, depending on how we express ourselves.
A teen can express their anger by: sulking, yelling, being sarcastic or being depressed. When they are sulking mor depressed it’s very hard to talk to them. This is very frustrating to parents because we have no idea what’s bothering them and we don’t want a painful situation to turn into another teen suicide. Speaking of teen suicides, it is now the third leading cause of death for kids from 15-24. The death from suicide with teens in this age group has shown a significant increase since 2004. To put this alarming statistic in perspective there is a teen suicide every hour and forty-five minutes.
An excellent non profit organization in Los Angeles the Josephson Institute of Ethics discovered that 52% of the teens that have hit someone in anger think that it’s all right to hit or threaten a person who angers them.
What You Can Do With Your Teen When They’re Angry
1. Try to stay firm and unemotional “a cool head” at all times, that way you will be role modeling positive ways to deal with a heated situation.
2. Be clear and specific when laying down the rules, otherwise they will say that you never mentioned a seemingly small detail.
3. Don’t let your teen cut corners. If you want them to clean their room not only be specific, as in Rule #2, but hold them accountable, if for example they did not empty their trash. Better yet, write the three things that you want them to do in cleaning their room.